Now, I freely admit to oft using the words ‘whore’, ‘slut’ and ‘harlot’, but only ever as a term of endearment amongst my nearest and dearest. What really gets me all riled up is when people actually use it in a derogatory sense to decry the natural expression of the human sexuality of others. Why should sex be shameful?
Truth be told, I do think that both straight women and gay men tend to get tarred with the same brush when it comes to perceived promiscuity and the alleged social unacceptability of it. Gentlemen of the heterosexual persuasion generally being allowed a lot more leeway in their transgressions.
It further angers me when I see such shaming coming from within the gay community itself. In fact my recent ire comes after recently reading an article by a gay man calling for the closure of saunas and other sex on premises venues. The rationale being that we no longer need to frequent such vile places to sate our carnal urges, seeing that being gay has become more socially acceptable. He went on to say that we won’t be taken seriously and accepted as completely ‘normal’ as long as we continue to play into the stereotype of licentious deviants. The writer even suggested that with all the handy apps now, one can still have discreet anonymous sex if they choose. To me this seems to imply that we can continue to fuck around just as long as we keep it all hidden away from polite society.
Indeed, I’ve had more than a few conversations with both men and women – of varying sexual persuasions – where they’ve expressed their disappointment that such dens of iniquity aren’t freely available to everyone. For my part, I don’t see what the fuss is all about. If you think intimate relations should only be shared by those in love then that’s dandy, but it really should have no effect on the my sex life or upon the carnal dealings of others.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought the fight for equality was so that we could live our lives as we saw fit and not as others thought we should. It’s basically the same as those homosexuals who campaign against marriage equality because it isn’t something they particularly want. Much like whoredom, marriage isn’t for everyone but everyone should have the right to participate if they wish.
All that aside, does it really matter what consenting adults get up to in the privacy of their own home, local park or friendly neighbourhood sauna? And is it really any business of yours? Personally, I think we should have Promiscuous Pride! Where people are free to decree their wanton wishes with gay abandon.
Until then I will just have to continue in my crusade, swiping away at the stigma of those who love to share the love. Who isn’t a fan of a good old-fashioned orgy, after all?